Joining the Dots..

Tomorrow is 10th Dec, the day my parents got married 25 years back; of course I wasn’t a witness of it. But as photographs speaks, it looks like my mom was the most beautiful bride and my dad was the most handsome groom. Of course after a year, I popped out making their world much more beautiful and seven years later my sister came along, thus completing our family.

When today I look back, I see all happy as well as sad moments we have spent together. I have seen the strength with which they overcame their differences and the love that they always gave us. No matter how bad the day was it always ended with a sweet hug. All my life I have heard from the people around me that consistency is most important. Even in cricket we like a batsman for his consistent performance. According to me, my parents can be given the best opening batsmen and the most consistent performers tag at the same time.

Their dedication towards their marriage and their love for each other has brought them through many ups and downs in life. Inu and me are so glad to be brought up by them and be a part of their life that no words can express. An artist is known for this best creation while the work of parents gets reflected in their children. A person who
knows my family will agree that my parents are true artist.

This post is dedicated to my parents for their love, understanding and hard work which makes our life beautiful.

An arrange marriage and some romance!

Call it my wedding fever or call me a romantic fool. But imagine yourself in this story.

As most of my friends have already or are about to turn 24, the wedding alarm is ringing for each one of us. It is a gender unbiased alarm which rings from time to time. The volume of the alarm increases only when someone in the group is getting married or engaged.

Coming back to the story, recently a friend of mine got engaged. He has never met the gal. Obviously, it’s a typical arrange marriage. It has been a couple of times he has talked to her. Recently, when he called her up with a motive to explain that he has been busy lately, the gal told him something which made his jaw fall down. Now, he is my friend so obviously it’s very difficult to shut him down. Actually, when he himself told me the story I didn’t know how to react either. I was as stunt as if I had seen “a holiday voucher to moon”. Call me crazy now but believe me there is gonna be a time when this will happen.

So this gal whom neither I nor my friend has ever seen is probably 18 or 19 year old. But the way she speaks makes us think how pure she must be. This is the 3rd time my friend is talking to his would-be and the gal says “Guess what happened the other day when I called you?”

My friend (Thinking all sorts of things that can happen with an 18 year old. Friends teased her.. Family must have said something about being too much on phone.. Some important exam or result which I’m not aware of or God forbid but some accident.. Too many options.) “I can’t think of any. Why don’t you tell me!”

Gal (In a shy voice, probably blushing) “You called my name for the first time.”

Now tell me how you react to this. It’s just not possible. Who talks that way? I can never use this line for a guy. It’s like giving him too much importance. Probably the fear of reaction is much more than our actions. I still think how pure that gal must be that she just came upfront and said what was in her heart. Hats-off to her and anyone who can do this! When I heard this story I realized that may be in this really complicated world, there still are some people who are not judgmental and who can actually speak their heart out.

And the other realization, may be arrange marriages are not that boring. There is a pinch of romance and excitement in its own way.

O my beautiful stranger

O my beautiful stranger
I see you in the moon, I see you in the Sun.
I see you in rains, I see you in plains.
You are the unknown who feels like my own.

I hear you when I’m alone, I feel you when I’m on my own.
I can sense you when I’m lonely and talk to you as my own.

O my beautiful stranger
Come be a part of me, for now time has come.
Hold my hands and we shall fly far away, where we belong.

O my beautiful stranger
I have been waiting for so long
Make my wish come true, O please come along!

Everyday stories: Life!

Everyday stories: Life!: "Life, Simple, yet so complicated. Real, yet so dramatic. Sweet, yet so salty. Smooth, yet so high. Easy, yet so tough. Life, Good, yet so complicated

All these stories are fictional and have no relation with anyone dead or alive

Life!

Life,
Simple, yet so complicated.
Real, yet so dramatic.
Sweet, yet so salty.
Smooth, yet so high.
Easy, yet so tough.
Life,
Good, yet so bad.
And we, sensible, yet such big fools.
We think we understand life. We think we know what we what in life. We think we can set our targets and achieve them. But life, it always has some other plans. Plans which never matches ours.
Life, we spend our life in understanding it. We spend so much time to figure out what it wants. Yet we get stuck and go the way life wants to take us. What do I actually want? Such simple question with no answer. Love, hate, feelings, emotions, ambition, devotion all are part of life. Each carries a different weight. A weight, we never know if we can balance or handle.
Life, a beautiful picture with dark clouds. Will it rain or not? You never know. If in case it rains, will make you happy? You never know.
Life, simple yet so complicated and we, sensible yet such big fool!

Everyday stories: Difference in the life of a gal and a guy!

Everyday stories: Difference in the life of a gal and a guy!: "Listed are some of the conversations they are having with their parents 1:: Gal : Mom I wanna learn to box. Mom : are you crazy?! Don’t m..."

Difference in the life of a gal and a guy!

Listed are some of the conversations they are having with their parents

1::

Gal : Mom I wanna learn to box.

Mom : are you crazy?! Don’t make it difficult for me to find a groom for u.

Dad: If you want to learn something, do something which others like.

Gal’s thoughts: (WTF!! M I supposed to do things only which others like??!!!!)

Guy: Mom, I have joined boxing classes.

Mom: wow!! My son is gonna box. Now I can tell all my frnds about it.

2::

Gal: Mom I want to go a consert, Sonu Nigam is coming. This might be a life time opportunity, I have VIP passes. Two of my friends are going. Its not a night out. We’ll return same day. It might get late but I’ll be careful.

Mom: You know how I feel about it. You simply don’t want me to live in peace. God!
How should I explain this gal. There is such a big difference between a gal and a guy.

Gal’s thoughts: (Is it my fault to be a gal?! And if I want different things than other gals. Is it my fault.?)

Guy: Mom,I going for a show with my friends. It might become a two day trip. Nothing is planned yet.

Mom: Go ahead son. Let me know if you need anything. I’ll talk to your dad, this is the age when you enjoy. Who knows whats gonna happen in future?! Go ahead son. Have fun, enjoy yourself.

3::

Gal: I’ll marry the guy you find for him and won’t question you once. But let me live my life now. Let me enjoy now. Who know what kind of husband I get in future?!

Mom: I don’t want to hear all this crap. You are talking as if we don’t care for you and will find someone who will not care for your needs. Enjoy as much you want after your marriage. I don’t want to hear all this.

Gal’s thought: ( I don’t have a life. My life sucks! What should I do?!)

Guy: Mom, this is the gal I want to marry. I love her. If you don’t accept her it will make me really sad.

Mom & Dad : with initial anger. Eventually everyone comes back on track. There’s no problem for the son. There might be some problem for the daughter-in-law.

4::

Mom: Look Beta we have given you so much freedom. You can eat whatever you want and have the job you want. We have never told you anything about it. Have we?! (Its not actually a question, so don’t try and answer). We are the best parents in the world. What else do you want us to do?

Gal: What!!! Now you want a control over the type of food I eat. And the place I work! You already control the cloths I wear. What is she trying to prove?!!

Dad: I want a daughter whom I can proudly present in the society. I want to tell everyone that’s my daughter she listens to everything I say.

Gals’ thought: ( I get it, I have to behave as you guys say till I get married and after that listen to my husband, whom you’ll find! And after all this is clear to me you want me to believe that I have all the freedom in the world.)


I don’t know if ever guys hear this argument
These were just examples and they do happen in today’s world. We still say that we treat gals and guys at the same level. We say that we are free. The truth is that we are slave of our own small world.

Some soul searching..

For past few days I have not been able to update my blog neither been able to have a sound sleep. Time is not the problem but a lot of things are going on in my mind. I can’t write because my mind is not at rest. I don’t believe we should follow wherever life takes us but make our own path. I don’t believe in destiny anymore. I don’t think if we are unable to achieve something it’s not in our destiny but we didn’t give it our best. I truly believe that if we want something as the most important thing in our life we are sure to achieve it. But when? Not someday. Please don’t answer me that. I don’t have all my life to run after something and get it when my hairs are gray. I want to be successful in my own definition.

Last few weeks of my life have been about soul searching and I’m still confused. A long time back, when I was in school, my teacher told me the best way to know what you want is to start thinking about things you don’t want. And that was the way I came at the conclusion that I wanted to be a software engineer. I still remember that I was in Class 8th when I had decided that software was what I wanted to do. I was good at coding and decided that I wanted to be a coder. Today I work in an MNC as a developer but when I look at myself I don’t think this was what I had expected. I have done engineering like million others and I’m doing a job as most of the other engineers. Then what’s the difference between me and them? I don’t like to be a part of the crowd. There should be a differentiating factor. Something which makes you stands above the crowd.

As I child I was greatly inspired by Bill Gates. I didn’t know much about him then but a fact that he was into software. I thought software is the road to success and he is the kind of person I want to be someday. I’m 22 now, an age when people start talking about your marriage and parents start worrying if her daughter can cook well. But these are not the things I want for myself. My roommate is probably the kind of daughter my parents or anyone’s parents expect. But I can’t be like her. May be I don’t understand these things or underestimate their importance in life. But my goal in life is not to get married and cook for some guy and our children. These things are secondary for me, at least not now. The thought of such future scares every tiny bit in me. I want to be successful. I’m desperate for success. Nothing in life matters to me more than that.

Definition of success is yet to be written for me. I think Ashoka or Chanakya were successful because we still read about them and their life. Every aspect of their life inspires us in some way or the other. They are the people with revolutionary ideas. Of course they were long time back and most of us don’t care about them now. So I took a look at people whom we consider to be successful today. I hope you have read the book “Men of Steel”, if not get a copy of it. I came across this book when I was in the fourth year of engineering. My best friend was reading it and just to irritate him and not let him read I took the book from him. Later I read it myself. It took me around a year to actually get inspired by the book. It’s true I never gave it a lot of thought but now I think I understand success in a better way and I want it like I had never wanted anything before.

Let us talk about people whom we consider to be successful, Steve Wozniak. He started investing when he was 14 and in an article about him as I read he said that he thinks that he was late. Shocked? I know I was. The man started investing at an age of 14 and still thinks he was late! So according to me I have lost a lot of time in my life. Life is short but we can live it large. I want to be big and that big only I can define. None has any right over that. It’s my life and only once I’m gonna live it. So better I live it big. I will do everything possible to live the life I want for myself. I hope to be successful without giving myself another option. I want to grow in a way that world remembers me as a revolutionary. I sincerely hope all this to happen.

I would like to end this article with a quote
“Hope is a good thing, may be the best of things and no good thing ever dies.”